All of this resonated so so much. I was just diagnosed last year at 27 and it made a lot of sense but also hasn’t done a whole lot in making my life feel better. I’ve been trying different antidepressants and adhd medication and nothing seems to be making a big impact which is a painstaking process in itself.
Work has been the biggest issue lately as I have a job that’s too flexible with only long term goals and no urgency or accountability or even coworkers (it’s just my boss and I who I fortunately love). I literally have to build the systems and prioritize a million different, little tasks and keep myself on track and it just hasn’t been working lately. I’m TIRED! Anyway, thank you for this and I look forward to more content on these topics.🤍
That type of job would be sooooo hard for me, I totally understand why it's a struggle for you. Kudos to you for making systems and accountability for yourself. Sometimes I'll have clients who have jobs like this ask their boss to give them deadlines or faux goals to create some sense of urgency to help them stay on track.
Everything you just wrote was like a gut punch, it resonated to much. I think for me, a lot of the anger is guilt and shame - as you know, being a neurodivergent mom raising neurodivergent kids (2 of my 3) is so hard. Not being able to implement routines and structure to the way I know would help my kids weighs heavily, even though I know that neither of them would be diagnosed at this point without me advocating for them. It's so hard. Next time I feel the rage I will attempt to take a breath and remember it's normal.
I literally talked about this in therapy today and my therapist suggested that I also consider that having a mother who understands them, sees them for who they are, AND that shares their struggles is also important.
I feel you, and I want to encourage you to remember that you're exactly the mom your kids are meant to have. Systems may help but in the end you are the best one to take care of them.
So many hugs to you. You know I feel this on so many levels, it's so much to manage at once and no one really knows what it's like unless you're the one in it. It goes without saying you're doing a great job.
Love this. I was recently evaluated for ADHD and was told if it wasn’t “presenting” in my early school years - specifically by the age of 12 - and in the form of poor grades or school performance, then it wasn’t ADHD. Instead, she said I should talk to my PCP. I’m guessing this is commonplace
Chiming in to say that I was diagnosed three years ago at the age of 35. I was a very, very, bright child who did amazing at school and was just "forgetful, a daydreamer, and hard to motivate sometimes" - pretty much the classic presentation in girls. Wishing you luck with your PCP, hopefully their understanding of ADHD isn't stuck in the 90s.
So commonplace, too much so unfortunately. Girls typically don't present symptoms in school, especially if they were interested in school and enjoyed parts of it.
All of this resonated so so much. I was just diagnosed last year at 27 and it made a lot of sense but also hasn’t done a whole lot in making my life feel better. I’ve been trying different antidepressants and adhd medication and nothing seems to be making a big impact which is a painstaking process in itself.
Work has been the biggest issue lately as I have a job that’s too flexible with only long term goals and no urgency or accountability or even coworkers (it’s just my boss and I who I fortunately love). I literally have to build the systems and prioritize a million different, little tasks and keep myself on track and it just hasn’t been working lately. I’m TIRED! Anyway, thank you for this and I look forward to more content on these topics.🤍
That type of job would be sooooo hard for me, I totally understand why it's a struggle for you. Kudos to you for making systems and accountability for yourself. Sometimes I'll have clients who have jobs like this ask their boss to give them deadlines or faux goals to create some sense of urgency to help them stay on track.
Everything you just wrote was like a gut punch, it resonated to much. I think for me, a lot of the anger is guilt and shame - as you know, being a neurodivergent mom raising neurodivergent kids (2 of my 3) is so hard. Not being able to implement routines and structure to the way I know would help my kids weighs heavily, even though I know that neither of them would be diagnosed at this point without me advocating for them. It's so hard. Next time I feel the rage I will attempt to take a breath and remember it's normal.
Hugs. I feel this too. I know systems would help my kids but I absolutely cannot function enough to get them planned and up and running.
I literally talked about this in therapy today and my therapist suggested that I also consider that having a mother who understands them, sees them for who they are, AND that shares their struggles is also important.
YES, THIS!!!!
I feel you, and I want to encourage you to remember that you're exactly the mom your kids are meant to have. Systems may help but in the end you are the best one to take care of them.
So many hugs to you. You know I feel this on so many levels, it's so much to manage at once and no one really knows what it's like unless you're the one in it. It goes without saying you're doing a great job.
Love this. I was recently evaluated for ADHD and was told if it wasn’t “presenting” in my early school years - specifically by the age of 12 - and in the form of poor grades or school performance, then it wasn’t ADHD. Instead, she said I should talk to my PCP. I’m guessing this is commonplace
Chiming in to say that I was diagnosed three years ago at the age of 35. I was a very, very, bright child who did amazing at school and was just "forgetful, a daydreamer, and hard to motivate sometimes" - pretty much the classic presentation in girls. Wishing you luck with your PCP, hopefully their understanding of ADHD isn't stuck in the 90s.
So commonplace, too much so unfortunately. Girls typically don't present symptoms in school, especially if they were interested in school and enjoyed parts of it.